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It’s funny how the most difficult times in my life are when I feel so passionately about something I can’t help but continue working on it. In college, I had a complete mental breakdown (and that’s putting it lightly). I’ve written about it before and won’t rehash the details here. What I will say is,Continue reading “Room for Improvement.”

I had another round of conversations recently about my gender expression and the clothes I choose to wear. Of course, we all choose clothes based on the venue, the people we will be with, and the activity we will be doing. We all make choices based on our comfort level and our desires. However, culturalContinue reading “Dress safe.”

Originally posted 2019.11.12 I like sharing various personal journeys because I often feel social media is too glamorous and focused on “perfect” or “good” aspects of our lives, rather than reality. I don’t like portraying an unattainable ideal- it’s important to share the highs and the lows of our lives. On that note, here’s theContinue reading “Avoiding Social Anxiety.”

This was supposed to be my introductory blog post. I was born a May baby, a Gemini, a green-eyed ball of joy. I was assigned male at birth. I had brown hair, a big nose, a wide grin, and fat little cheeks. I loved running and dancing, jumping and swimming, reading and playing make believe.Continue reading “I am Fiercely Fluid.”

Originally posted 2019.10.11 I started coming out as a gay man in high school. At the time, it was the best terminology and understanding I had. It was a long and messy process; I struggled with shame, anger, sadness, and acceptance. I don’t think I fully accepted myself identifying as gay until midway through college.Continue reading “Coming Out Day.”

Originally posted 2019.10.02 Having long hair has been a secret fantasy of mine for as long as I can remember- well, after my mullet days when I was five. When I realized I was gay, I knew I would have trouble fitting in with societal expectations of being male. I overcompensated by attempting to portrayContinue reading “Love my Curls.”

I don’t hate trump or his supporters. I pity them. They don’t make me angry. They make me sad. I refuse to hate them, or give in to anger or disgust. They don’t deserve my energy. But I do pity them. I feel sorry for anyone who lives with such a narrow worldview. I feelContinue reading “We are Equal.”

I recently had an epiphany that one of my oldest, most entrenched coping mechanisms is reading for hours in bed until I’m utterly exhausted and fall asleep immediately after. Otherwise I usually toss and turn for hours, racing thoughts abound. I’ll lay for an hour thinking through all the conversations I had that day andContinue reading “Reading to Oblivion”

We all protect ourselves somehow. Every one of us learned techniques over the years to keep ourselves safe. We learn skills to prevent injury, whether emotional, physical, or mental. We’ve been hurt, we’ve made mistakes, we’ve learned and moved on. But sometimes we don’t move on. Sometimes the hurt is too deep, or too scary,Continue reading “The Crystal Jar.”

I recently had an amazing conversation with coworkers about gender identity and gender expression. One individual said I was brave for living freely and sharing my personal truths. I never know how to react when people call me brave. I feel like being open about my existence is something I should do. I often thinkContinue reading “Am I Brave?”